The Boy Child: Why he needs his father?

“A boy needs a role model, a man whom he can regard as a mentor” — Dennis Rainey

The level of a child’s self-confidence is a function of his environment and the influence it exerts on him. Studies show that fathers play significant roles in the assurance of a positively influential setting for the mental and physical well-being of a child.

For the boy child, the father is a necessary guide—the footprints that he will walk on.

When a father pays attention, he does it without restrictive emotions. He looks at a manner development in his child, weighs the pros and cons, and reacts immediately with the most appropriate action.

It is the father that teaches the boy child life skills needed for productive living. These are skills that are not found within the pages of textbooks. It can only be taught by a figure who understands what being a boy entails and knows the exact postures a boy must develop to become a meaningful man—this is a void only the father can fill.

It is only the father that can engage the boy child in tough plays. Tough plays help the boy to learn the distinction between aggression and too much aggression. It is a training that teaches the child how his energy can be managed, and why he must channel it in the right direction. This ultimately helps the boy to shape his boundaries while engaging people—especially individuals from the female gender.

We are already seeing a world where there are less empathy and little self-restraint in the face of pressure. These trends have a lot to do with the absence of fathers in homes and cracks in family structures.

Family is the first community for any boy child. This is where he knows his first sets of life’s experiences, and the takeaways from those experiences define his outlook on society.